Episode Transcript
[00:00:00] Speaker A: One. Welcome to the one percent man podcast. I got my good friend here with me, Betsy, Dr. Betsy Guerrero. How are you doing today?
[00:00:10] Speaker B: I'm doing fantastic. How are you?
[00:00:13] Speaker A: I'm doing really good. I'm doing really good. I always love these podcasts because we always have a podcast episode before we always get on the official efforts, it seems. Always love these. Yeah. Now, did I say your name correctly?
[00:00:25] Speaker B: Yes, you did. And Betsy is good. I never used the doctor, but thank you anyway.
[00:00:31] Speaker A: Oh, you're welcome, you're welcome. But you have to let the people know just a little bit. Like, this is why you should listen.
So. Yeah. And you work super hard for that, you know what I mean? Like PhD. I'm sorry I can't do it, but I'm gonna lean on you for it.
[00:00:47] Speaker B: Let's do it. Let's do it.
[00:00:48] Speaker A: Yeah. So before we begin, I always love to ask my guests three questions. Is that okay? So that way the listeners myself get to know you. Perfect. Question number one.
If you could speak to your 18 year old self, what advice would you give her and why?
[00:01:06] Speaker B: Girl, you're a rock star.
You are so awesome, you don't even know it. You were created for greatness and I am greatness. If so, if I were to speak to my 18 year old self or even younger than that, I would just remind her of what she knew all along. But sometimes that inner voice, that truth within, is shadowed by external voices by limiting beliefs. So I would just with confidence, remind and reiterate. You were created for greatness and you are an embodiment of that greatness. Live as though you know it.
[00:01:55] Speaker A: I. I love that. I love that. Damn. I had the real freeway. Rick Ross on my podcast and he always tells himself like, I'm a genius. And he has those affirmations where he with the way he talks to himself, but I love the way he talks yourself. Hey, I'm a rock star right like here. And bought your desire for greatness. And I am. I think I can see the conviction in your face and when you talk. So I, I love it a lot. Question number two. If you could be an expert in another field besides positive psychology, mixing psychology and faith and spirituality, what would it be and why?
[00:02:30] Speaker B: Hi, Bertrand. I love myself and my life so much that I would do exactly what I'm doing, love what I do. My career, my business, my life, my family is my purpose. It's the, it's my ideal, my dream. So if I could do something else, I would do this again. I live in alignment. I Live in joy. I live in peace. I.
I am so happy. I wouldn't want to be anybody else or anything else. I.
I'm exactly where I'm meant to be.
[00:03:08] Speaker A: No, I love that. I love that. That's a. Nothing else needs to be said on that. Question number three. If you could speak to every man and instill one value in them, what would it be and why? So that way you can make the world. So that way the world could be a better place for everyone.
[00:03:27] Speaker B: Connect with your highest self, which some people call spirit, soul, God, universe, inner wisdom, enlightenment, whatever you call it, connect with that greatness within. We think of God or the universe as something outside of us, something external.
There's this illusion of separation between us and. And the divine, or that greatness. And the truth is, we have that greatness. And the way I see it, Bertrand, is we are a wave in the notion. The ocean is that mysterious, grand, endless, infinite power some people call God universe, and all that for. Just so that I. Just so that I don't have to say that every time I am going to call it, or him God.
But please insert whatever resonates with you into that phrase, into that word. So we are part of this ocean, which is that. That. That greatness.
And it's infinite. It's mysterious, it's all powerful. It's all encompassing. It's. It's all. There is this abundance of water like this ocean, and. And life, right? There's so, so much in it, and you can't see the beginning or the end. It's just endless. And it's. It's powerful. And we're a wave. And if you think about being at the beach and you're. You're playing in the. Let's say you're playing at the beach with friends or with kids, and you're like, okay, let's jump this wave, and there come. Okay, there's the first wave, and then there's a second wave, and there's the third wave and the fourth. And we see waves as separate from. Right? Like we even. We can even count them. But if you think about the wave, where does it start and where does it end?
How is the wave separated from the ocean? The wave is the ocean, and the ocean is the wave. The wave is a part of the ocean, right? Because it's in it, as are we. So we are part of this divine, this greatness, this universe, and we think we're separated from it. So when you connect to that power, then anything is possible.
Not too much is possible. For the little wave, the helpless little wave. But if that little wave remembers and we go back to what I would tell my younger self, if that little wave remembers that it is the ocean, then it's oh, I can do whatever I want. I can reach the moon. I can accomplish great things, I can do hard things, I can overcome this. I can and I will.
Because it remembers. It's part of a deeper infinite wisdom and greatness. So if I were to speak to all men listening, I would say, instead of trying to get the best job or build the grandest business or get the hottest girl or have a whole lot of sex to feel super manly, I would say connect with the greatness within, the God within. Connect, become spirituality. Is connect your relationship with God or that higher power?
Religion is the story we tell ourselves about that relationship. Like in our human minds and our desire to understand what that means.
We go to church, we experience religion just so that we can grasp what it is that we believe in. So that we can be accompanied by community and worship together and have a little bit of guidance. Like we have this need for. We have this need of making everything that's infinite finite. So in a way, religion is that finite story that the human mind can understand. And, and just for the record, I am both religious and spiritual. I am of Christian backward, I'm background, I'm Catholic, and I love my religion. And I also see the toxicity in it in many ways.
So if I had, whenever, if I had no, because I've had to do it many times when I have to choose between being true to my religion and being true to my spirituality, my relationship with God, I always choose spirituality, even if I'm judged by it, right? Because sometimes they. There's a conflict, even though it's not supposed to be that way, but it is what it is, right?
So what I would say is connect with the spirit within, which is your true self, that seed of consciousness, that the spirit is the part of you that experiences your thoughts and listens to them. It's the part of you that experiences your feelings and feels them. But. But you are not your thoughts, you are not your feelings, you are not your job, you are, you are not your relationship, you're not your body.
You are that infinite beingness isness that experiences your thoughts, your feelings, lives in your body, can feel all the things that you're feeling. But we get confused. We think that we are all those things, our body, our jobs, our relationships, our thoughts, our emotions. That's why we believe everything, right? Like we believe Our thoughts, because we think they're true, because it's who we are. We believe our habits. Oh, I'm a morning person. No, I'm a night person. No, I'm not good at that. No, I. We believe all those habits and perspectives and identities, when in fact, that is just the ego and the ego. A lot of people talk about ego and others are like, what is the ego? What this. What's this ego thing? The ego is the identity that we create and we connect with as we grow up in our lives based on evidence from the outside world or even evidence from the inside world in. In the form of our thoughts and feelings. So if your parents told you you are so lazy a bunch of times, or you're so dumb, or people they diagnosed you with a learning disorder and. Or add, and you're like, yeah, no, I can't concentrate. Because you identify. You believe those thoughts or those identities. You believe them and you make them yours.
And you grow up. And then suddenly you are the kind of man who doesn't cry because boys don't cry. And you are the kind of man who doesn't do all these things because they're wrong. You're the kind of man who has multiple women at the same time. You're the kind of man who, whatever it is that you've learned about your life experiences, you believe that's who you are, but that's your ego. And the ego was created by self, by the human.
It's not who you. Who was like, it's not. It's who you are, wasn't created by you, because then how could you create what created you? So the ego is the identity that we've adopted. And the good news, as Joe Dispenser says, is that we can break the habit of being ourselves.
We can reconnect with spirit, with who, with our truth, with our soul, so that we can let go and let die. The identity that is preventing us from living and experiencing our greatness.
[00:11:25] Speaker A: Could you touch on how we can let go that old identity and tap into a whole new identity? I think that is very. That's very powerful.
[00:11:35] Speaker B: Oh, goodness. I could do like a one year. So let's think about some steps. The first step, always, I believe, is awareness.
If you have the awareness that you are not your thoughts and you are not your emotions and you are not your habits or your identity, your ego, then you can start the process. But if you're like, oh, my goodness, this whole woman like, bird, like Bertrand, like, really, what does she smoke? What is she Talking about if there's no belief, there's no awareness, there's no desire to learn more. There's no change or transformation. So I would say the first step is awareness, belief and desire. Right? Like, okay, I want to. I desire to do this and explore. Let me get curious. Curiosity.
Once you do that, I believe wholeheartedly that the answers lie within. And it's been confirmed by many spiritual directors, psychologists, professionals, people from all walks of life. The answers lie within.
So instead of looking for answers outside of you, I would go back home. And the way I do that, Bertrand, is through meditation.
Meditation in the past has been underestimated. And I don't think it can ever be overrated. Like, meditation is a beautiful path to infinite possibilities and infinite wisdom. And the reason that is from a psychological perspective is when you meditate, essentially what you're doing is you're letting go of your human thought thoughts, which are limited in and of themselves, to create space for the download of infinite wisdom to come in. If we are too busy with our thoughts, with our interpretations, with our perceptions, if we're too married and connected to our beliefs. And that's. It is what it is, and that's reality. And by the way, quantum physics, science. Okay, this is science. Quantum physics says that reality, the way we think of it, which is based on our senses, what we think, what we see, what we heard. I know because I saw it with my own eyes. And I heard it. I heard you say with my own ears. That's how we interpret reality. That thing that we think is real, that if we go to a court of law, we can prove it is 0.0000001% of reality, according to quantum physics. I didn't say this. Which means that what we think is true is only 0.0000001% reality. The rest can be accessed spiritually. The rest is that connection with this ocean we don't realize we're a part of. And some people. And some people call it the field, the energy field, the universe. Like the vibration, the frequency, like. It has all sorts of name. Even in Christianity, it is that the Holy Spirit. So this is across the board. It's just that in Christianity, we focus so much on the story that we have missed the greatness. We want to understand so much. The story that we forget to leave room for the mystery of God, the mystery of the universe.
Number one, awareness, belief, desire. No. Number two, connecting with spirit through practices such as meditation, mindfulness, even movement. A mindful walk in nature. Or like whatever it is that you do to. That you feel, like, alive and connected. That you feel, like, connected to what we call also intuition, which often comes in the form of a deep sense of knowing in your gut. There are things that you discover that you're like, I know this to be true. That's you're connected when you experience that. Joe Dispenza says that the thoughts are the language of the mind and emotions are the language of the body.
And men in general have been socialized to connect with their minds as the powerful thing. But really, what's more powerful than the mind is the body. The body is what holds the emotions. But we're as men, you're taught not to feel, not to cry, not to connect with uncomfortable emotions, like, not to be vulnerable. But that's where the power lies. Because in the body is what we have this thing we call heart, right? And I'm not speaking about the organ. The heart, the spirit, the soul. And the mind is always in service of the heart. So the heart is the boss. And if we. And I'm going to say we, because I'm one with you too. But if we as men only connect with the mind, we're missing out on the boss, which is the one that has all the wisdom to guide us.
So through meditation, you have the opportunity to connect because you're letting go of your limiting beliefs and. And limiting thoughts to welcome infinite possibilities that only come to you when you're open to receive them.
And I feel meditation is one of the greatest tools to expand ourselves. And what I mean by expansion is think of what do you want? You listening? Take this one second to reflect on what do I want more than anything? What do I want right now? Is it the woman of my dreams? Is it the. Is it a business that's successful? Is it an awesome job that fulfills me? Is it to be at peace with this person that I have a very toxic relationship with? Is it to forgive? What do you desire? Do you want money? Do you want a lot of money? What do you desire with all your heart? Take a moment to reflect on that.
The answer to that and the steps to that lie within you.
So when you spend time in silence, solitude, and stillness, you're able to hear it. And you. And what happens during that time is that you expand yourself. Because that thing that you desire is already yours. It's already yours. It's waiting. And I'm going to give you an example that's going to prove it to you. It's waiting for you. To be available to receive it. We hear God doesn't give you anything that you can't deal with.
And we think that what that means is God doesn't give you the adversities or the cross you can't carry. It's too heavy to carry. But it also means God doesn't give you anything you're not ready to receive.
So if you are too contracted and you cannot fit this infinite about amount of blessings that are ready for you, God can't give them to you. The universe can't give them to you, they don't fit.
But if you, instead of working outside of you, trying to find the job, trying to get the girl going to all the bars, looking for it, getting into the app, getting in the app, if you don't, if you're continuing to look for them outside, even when you find it, it won't fit. You're not expanded enough to receive it within you. So your job instead is expand, connect, become your greatness that you already are. Like, just con. Let the ego become the spirit. Let them connect and be one. And through meditation, you're able to expand yourself because you're saying, like, hey, limits. In my mind, I'm letting you go so that I can welcome the limitless possibilities that are available to me. And. And they're already yours. And. And this is. I. I told you I was going to prove to you that they were. That they were already there for you. My.
I've been married for almost 20 years. I am obsessed with my husband. Talking about man, he's. To me, there's God is like number one. And my husband's a close second. Like super close. Like, he is my Christ in many ways. Like, I see God in him.
And I'm obsessed with the guy. When I was young and I. Before I met him, I was a hopeless romantic and I wanted more than anything in the world the best relationship and marriage and man. And I just, I desired my fairy tale life. And I had a boyfriend for six years who was an incredible man, is still is an incredible man. And I knew he wasn't it, so I broke up with him. It took a lot of courage because I adored the guy, but I was like, he's not it. So I broke up. But because I still love them, I cried every single night for months. I want to say three months.
And in crying, I remember, like praying and asking God, hey, can you like, hook me up and give me my man? Can you show me the way? Can you confirm I'm doing the right thing? Like I had all these questions and one of those nights I decided to write a prayer in the form of, of a list. So I, I'm like, thank you God for this and that and hey, this is what I want in my man. So I did a whole list. I got 120 something items in my list. I was super specific from the basics to, of looks and physical things or whatever, to the values and the relationship with each other's families and the core beliefs and everything I wanted in him, how I wanted him to treat me, how I wanted to feel towards him, everything.
And I, because I wrote that list in prayer and faith and belief, I was like, huh?
It just, it became real. And that's the power of visualization, right? The subconscious mind doesn't know how to differentiate truth from fantasy. So when you are connected to a vision with all your senses, like you experience it in your mind as if it were true. That's why we believe so much crap. We experience it as truth.
And because I believed it, I started like just feeling so grateful for this man that was already born. I didn't know him, or I thought I didn't know him, but I knew he was born already. I was 20 something years old, so I figured I didn't know, right? I didn't think I was going to be a baby killer. But so I'm like, oh, he was probably born already, so thank you God for him and wherever he's at. And I blessed him and I just loved on him and I thank God for him. And I imagined our life together and I visualized him a lot.
So a few months later, I'm in Brazil. I lived in Puerto Rico at the time. I'm in Brazil and I am going back to Puerto Rico, but I had to do a layover in Miami for two days because there was, there were no flights available straight. And in Miami, in my layover, I didn't meet my husband. I recognized him.
When I saw my husband, I recognized him.
It was the first time in my life I experienced what they call love at first sight.
I just, I saw him, I recognized him. I was like, there you are. And I only know that I recognized him because of what I felt. I couldn't tell you with thoughts or words what it was, but when I saw him, what I felt was, there he is.
And when you meditate, when you connect with a higher power in silence, solitude and stillness, AKA meditation, centering, prayer, mindfulness, whatever that looks like for you, you have the ability and the connection to be able to feel those things. Some people call it intuition. There he is. There she is. There it is.
So I recognized my husband. I left to Puerto Rico the next morning.
And at the airport in Miami, I saw the plane left me because we got there late. I was with him the entire night. So the plane left me. And I was in the airplane waiting for a standby for the next flight. And the next flight is. It was Thanksgiving weekend, so it was impossible to get in a plane. And while I'm there at the airport waiting, somebody touches, touches, pats me on the back. And while I was getting lunch and when I look, it was my ex boyfriend and my. With my ex boyfriend, I had been like, back and forth a lot. Like we would break up sometimes I would meet someone, but I would always go back together and, and, and I saw him like, oh my gosh, you're here. So we had lunch together.
And while I was having lunch with him, I was like, I would never risk what I would. Just started a few hours ago for someone I was with six years.
And again, that was a feeling. That was a feeling. It was like, I am not going back to that old version of me or that part of me that would continue to go back to safety because I found. I'm expanded enough now to have recognized and found my person. Now I ask you, Bertrand, was my husband born the day I met him?
[00:25:58] Speaker A: No.
[00:25:58] Speaker B: Did he exist before I met him? Yes. All that money that you're asking to go into your account, it already exists. It's already there waiting for you to recognize it. But you can't recognize it when, until you've done the work to expand yourself, to have the ability to see through your eyes, but not with your eyes, that it's there, it's not in your account because your account is not expanded enough to receive it. That girl that you've been waiting for and you're dying to meet, and you're just so tired of going around from girl to girl, superficial, sexual, whatever, things that have no meaning is alive. She was. She's like my husband. She exists, but you're not ready to receive her. So why don't you go spend some time in silence and see what am I supposed to be working on right now? How do I get to be the kind of man who would attract the kind of woman? I desire that, that, like all the things that you said you desire, the freedom, the finances, the job, the career, the business, the possibility, the success is yours.
When are you going to receive it? And I also love this analogy. It's perfect because It's Christmas time. I don't know when you're airing this, but it's probably around Christmas. Even if it's after I see God as Santa Claus, right? And I imagine God in his lead with the reindeers, including Rudolph. And he's, he has all these like big red bags of blessings and successes and possibilities and accomplishments for us. And he's, oh, I can't wait to bring it. Super trend. And he goes to your house and your chimney is blocked. You haven't cleaned it in a while and it's just, it's clogged. There's no room. So even if he were to pour all his blessings onto you through your chimney, you wouldn't get them because it's clogged. So then God goes, oh man.
Okay, I'm gonna go to Peter's house and to Mike's house and I'm gonna go to Brian's house and oh, John really wanted this. Let me go by their house. And then I'm, I'm gonna come back, I'm gonna give Bertrand some time. And then he comes back and he's.
The chimney is a little bit cleaner. There's, I can see there's like a little space. He's been doing the work. So then he like drops one blessing through there and that's, that comes in and we're like, oh, I had this opportunity, maybe the next one will be like a total success. And he just drops it in there and you realize, okay, I'm in the right path.
Something's happening. I can't see it all, but something's happening.
And then the more you unclog your chimney, the more space there is to receive the endless possibilities that are available to you.
But the work is in, it's not in finding it outside of you, it's in becoming it before you have it. So let me give you the model. You ask, like, how do I do that? Okay, so awareness, belief, desire, meditation, or any practice that allows you to tune into your intuition, your spirit, your greatness, your highest self. Like the wisdom that lies within you, the God within you, the ocean within you.
But I have a model that I use with my students. I have a faith based coaching academy where I certify thought leaders and purpose driven individuals as life coaches. I'll tell you more about it later, but something I tell my students is society tells us that the model of success or happiness is have, do, be. If you have the money, then you do things that people with money do. And then you be wealthy and abundant. If you have the girl, then you do things that people who have the girl of their dreams do. And then you be happy and fulfilled in your relationship if you have, do be. That's what society says. That's what we're constantly looking to have, things outside of us. The spiritual motto that I am inviting you to consider says it's the opposite. It's be, do, have.
So think about it. The reason we want to have the girl is to be happy. The reason we want to have the money is to be abundant, financially free, wealthy. The reason we want to have the confidence, the. The success is to be confident of our greatness. So if we start with beingness, if we start with being it first, you arrived, the rest doesn't matter. And yet it will come. And that's what we call manifesting. If you be it first, then you vibrate. And there's a lot of research on this too, that like our energy and our emotions have a frequency. And if you could Google right now frequency of emotions and it'll tell you shame is at the bottom of the totem. And you and I were talking about shame and guilt before we got into this and how that usually comes from the, from church and our beliefs, the way we've interpreted the church, because I don't think that was the true intention of organized religion. But if you think about so. So if you go to the, the Internet and you look for the vibration or frequency of emotions, you'll see that shame is in the bottom. And then on the top you'll see like enlightenment and gratitude and love and, and all these things we know when we experience them, we know they feel good. So we vibrate at a certain frequency. We have this energy within us that I call the Holy Spirit and other people just call energy. And this energy vibrates and that vibration creates this frequency that is like connecting with that then attracts like frequency. Okay? And that's why when you're sad and tired and you listen to a song that's you just broke up with your girlfriend and you listen to her song, your song, and you're like depressed and everything goes wrong. And Murphy's law, it's because you're attracting similar frequency emotions and experiences, but you're manifesting those things. But the same is true when you're vibrating at a very high frequency of gratitude and joy and love and enlightenment and connection.
You attract those limitless possibilities as well.
And I think we forget the power we have because we're so dependent on the external that we forget that we can position us Ourselves, in the place or in the state of consciousness that will get us to do and have those things that we desire, which by the way, will no longer be as important because you already be it.
And I'll give you an example.
There are times in life in which you can pursue having something.
And there are other times in life, as was my case, that you cannot pursue the physical, external thing that you desire.
I told you, I have been married almost 20 years. I have four children, and one of my children lives in heaven. And my daughter, my second daughter died unexpectedly when she was almost three years old in an accident with me there. And it was the most excruciating time and pain of my life.
And I did not think I could be happy again. And I did not think I could live without her. And I didn't know if I was going to be able to smile again.
And what I wanted, what I desired with all my heart was to get my daughter back. I wanted her back.
So if I would have followed the society's model, I would need to have her back. I would need to be able to rewind time and do whatever it took to save her.
And I, I couldn't do that. I couldn't have what I wanted.
I couldn't do that. But the whole point of having that was to be happy again, was to find peace again, was to re experience the fairy tale life that my daughter was born into.
That's what I wanted ultimately was to enjoy my daughter, to continue raising her and loving her and connecting with her and feeding her embraces and watching her cuteness. That's what I wanted ultimately, for her to be okay, for her to be safe. But I couldn't physically obtain that. So maybe it was easier for me than it is for you to obtain what you desire, because for you, maybe it's physically possible to get it, whereas for me it wasn't. So then I had to go back to beingness, to the spiritual model of success.
And success to me was defined as finding joy again.
Being means, how do I get to be happy without getting my daughter back? How do I get to experience peace?
How do I get to have a relationship, like, feel like I'm connected to her. I'm embraced by how to get. How do I get to be all those things and feel them? Like being is very connected to what you think, what you feel like. If you had the incredible miracle of like your daughter resuscitated after a month, I've never heard of anything like that, but it was a total miracle she came. What Would you feel. You would feel so grateful and so lucky, chose me to experience this grand miracle. And you, all these things you would feel, Well, I decided to feel them already.
And I used my mind. I have incredible tools that my career and my connection with God has have given me. So I used my tools to affirm, right through affirmations, through the reprogramming of my mind, I. To affirm that I am happy, that I am chosen, that I am grateful, that I am so lucky. Right? Like. And the way I did that, by using my mind, was changing the story I told myself. So the story that this woman, who be it, told herself was.
I'll tell you what I told myself originally so that you understand the shift. So originally I told myself, I am the grieving mom who lost a daughter. I can never be happy again. She was supposed to bury me. This wasn't supposed to happen. What's going on? I'm never, ever going to be happy again. I can't live without my daughter.
And that shifted to, I am the chosen mother of an angel. I am VIP in heaven. I imagine my daughter going to Jesus and, like, grabbing his clothes and being Jesus. My mom really wants this. Can you please hook her up? And Jesus being like, you're so cute. Of course I'm gonna give you whatever you want. What do you want? Give it to me. Yes. Here you go. For your mommy. So I. I started thinking, like, I'm. Like, I'm the chosen one. I am so lucky. I go, I got to go through this pain because this pain is what allowed me to rise in a way that now I know the peace that surpasses all understanding. And now I know, like, deep joy that does not depend on external circumstances. And now I know that I can continue to love and be present with my daughter without having her physically here. And I. I was so grateful. To the point that now when people first hear about my story, the first thing they think is, poor you. And my thought is, poor you.
Poor you because you didn't have the blessing of going through the excruciating pain that allowed you to become who you are today, to that death that allowed you to rise up to your greatness.
It is because I lost my daughter that I think I'm awesome and I love my life. It's because I experience that pain that I know that pain is only the path, never the destination.
It is because I experience that I'm a better therapist and coach and that I can have this coaching academy to lead others by example, not just by what I Learned in my PhD. And that's why I don't use Dr. A lot. Because what gave me my education and the Wisdom wasn't the PhD. It was the embodiment of this hope, of the greatness that is lying within, waiting to have the opening, the possibility to come out.
So I be the chosen mom of an angel. I do things of service, like, because I feel so lucky, I serve others, I support others, do things that someone who's happy would do. I also chose to honor my daughter through service, love, and gratitude, not suffering, suffering. So based on that beingness, I do things that someone happy would do. I serve, I have fun. I have sparks of bliss, like my dear friend Caro, like, calls them. I have. I. I smile a lot. I'm full of energy. I'm excited a lot. Like, sometimes I go to sleep. How many times we go to sleep with anxiety and we're like, anxious. I go to sleep feeling like I can't believe this is my life. Oh, my gosh. Like, it's almost like. Like I can't breathe. But not of anxiety, of bliss, of joy.
And I do those things and I go through those experiences because I be it first. And then what do I have? What I wanted from the beginning, my daughter back.
I experience, feel, connect with, and love on my daughter every moment of my life. And because I chose to honor her through service, love, and gratitude, I am here with you today. And because I chose to connect with her spiritually and continue loving her as her mom, but maybe not so much her guide. I think she guides me more than I'm able to guide her these days. I don't have to miss her. I don't have to miss her. So I got what I wanted anyway. It just looks differently. But as humans, we think there's only one way of seeing the outcome we desire. And when we're attached to that one way. I need to get my daughter back physically. I need to get this particular job. I need this particular relationship to work. I need this deal to make the money that I wanted to see in my account. Because we're attached to those outcomes. Limited outcomes, by the way, because what God has in store for you is so much better. Because we're attached to them, we miss out on the true opportunity.
Does that make sense? I feel like I've spoken so much. I don't let you talk for trend.
[00:42:17] Speaker A: It makes sense. It makes sense. It's funny because all the questions I wanted to ask you touched on, so. So it's perfect. Yeah, that's Great. Yeah, I. I wish I could just put like a red bow on top of this and just be like, okay, perfect. No, you really, really did. I think the last thing before we go is the last word. So I always like to give the guests the last word. So that is. It could be a mantra, it could be an affirmations, it could be another topic. It could be whatever you want to tell the listeners before we stop listening, before they start living, start living life or stop listen to this podcast. What do you want to tell them and what do you want them to take with them for the rest of their life?
[00:42:55] Speaker B: I have two that are coming to mind, so I'm going to share both.
Because maybe for you this, the first one is the one, and maybe for you the second one is the one. So I'll just share both.
The first one is pain is never the path, it is only the destination. Ah, sorry. Pain is only the path, it's never the destination.
And it's the path to healing and joy. So if you're in pain right now, you haven't arrived, my dear friend, if you're. And when I say pain, if you're grieving, if you are struggling financially, if you feel unfulfilled and unsuccessful, if you haven't found love yet, whatever pain you are experiencing is your path to healing, joy and success, it's never the destination.
And the second one I wanted to share is, you were created for greatness.
You were created for greatness.
You were not created for mediocrity, for. Okay, for good enough.
If you're not in greatness, you haven't arrived.
And if you are playing it small or just staying comfortable, remember that you were created for greatness and you're going to be guided to it. And the more you expand yourself to be able to fit in the guidance that's going to lead you to your greatness, the more. The less you'll have to wait for it and the more aligned you'll feel in your life, which will also create a whole lot of joy in the journey.
So if you're in pain, you haven't arrived. If you're not in greatness, you haven't arrived.
Because success is inevitable for those who believe.
[00:45:13] Speaker A: Betsy, thank you so much. And to the listeners, take that away with you, and your legacy starts today.
