High Performer Problems: Why No One Checks On You (and What to Do About It) | 1PM: 122

[00:00:02] Speaker A: Hey, what's going on? It's Bertrand. And today I want to share this great message with you, right? Actually, this conversation I had with a friend, she was going through a very hard time and she was trying to. And she was explaining to me she didn't understand why between her and her brother, no one reached out to her, right? Her mom, her dad, people in the family didn't reach out to her, right? But people will always reach out to her brother. Now, you gotta understand, this girl went to Ivy League school, right? Top of her class. I mean, just a high performer and everything that she does, right? And she says that, you know, her whole life she feels as if they never really gave her the attention that she really needed and wanted. But her brother, on the other hand, who doesn't? Let's. Let's just say he isn't a high performer, right? He isn't up to par, but everyone's always coddling him, trying to make sure he's okay, checking on him, asking him what he's doing, giving him extra attention. And I told her, welcome to the world of high performance. Welcome to the world of high performance, right? Because at the end of the day, because you're a high performer, because you do things, because you execute at a high level, people naturally, whether it's your mom, your dad, people around you are going to think, you know what? Cheryl got it. That's not her name. It's giving somebody a name, right? Cheryl is okay. She can do whatever. Because why they think that you're always going to land on your feet like a cat. So they're not going to check on you as much as someone else in your family that may not be up to par. So when you are out there and you're trying to figure out why people aren't maybe helping you as much or people aren't reaching out to you is because they believe that you are okay. And it isn't until you open your mouth and tell people like, hey, I'm not okay, I need help, that's when they're going to be so surprised. I'll tell you this. [00:01:43] Speaker B: Even in my life, I have shared, even with my mom and dad, that, hey, I'm struggling with depression, I'm struggling with this, or, hey, I'm going to therapy. And they're like, you, out of all people, how you're so happy. I mean, you get things done. You're such a high performer. You've written books like how you wrote self help. I remember someone told me you wrote a self help book. How can you be depressed? Funniest thing I've ever heard. [00:02:04] Speaker A: But I just say that to say. [00:02:06] Speaker B: Because you're a high performer, people look at you differently, okay? And it's not your fault, it's just how it is. Okay? So my message for the day is, if you need help, ask for it. And the second thing is, because you're a high performer, don't expect people to lend a hand to you. You're gonna have to open your mouth and ask for help. [00:02:24] Speaker A: Okay? Hey, have a good day. [00:02:26] Speaker B: Talk to you later. Peace.