How to Stay Grounded When Life Is Falling Apart | 1PM: 104

[00:00:01] Good morning, good afternoon, wherever you are in the world today. I really want to share this message about how do you stay grounded when everything around you is going to dust? All right? [00:00:16] And I think one of the best examples I can have this is that, you know, my dad lost his job when we were growing up and we lived in Fairfax, Virginia. Right? Phil? Fairfax, as you guys may not know, but you will know now, is that it's a very influential area. It has like the top 10 schools in the nations are right there. Right. Virginia does a very good job investing in this into their school systems. Right. And this place, I think at the time maybe was, now, don't quote me, but if I can remember, but my dad was working like a minimum wage job, but rent was super high. Right? Right. Like, I think 2000 or something dollars. Right. But in that whole time that that was happening, even when he lost his job and everything, all that tradition, now that I know this growing up, I did not know that when I was younger. And right now, you can look on LinkedIn, you can look on Facebook, you can look even in daily conversations with people. Everyone feels this tightening or this crushing of, you know, bad economy, the Great Depression number two, or, you know, layoffs happening as well. [00:01:23] And kids have the worst timing. [00:01:26] If you have kids, you know that, right? You could literally be reading an email about being laid off and your daughter come to you and say, daddy, can you play dress up with me? Or, daddy, come have tea time with me, or mommy can. Can I have a snack? [00:01:39] You're going through the most emotional period of your life. [00:01:43] Right? Your parent just died. Your job is about to lay you off. [00:01:48] You don't know how you are going to make it happen. It may be a couple months because you could already see foreshadow that, hey, savings is about to run out, or, I don't have enough savings, or, oh, my God, I wasn't expecting this job to end so soon. [00:02:00] And you have to figure out, okay, how do I react in this moment as a father, as a leader, as someone that wants to make sure I emulate something great for my child? [00:02:14] And I think there's two things I can tell you. One, accept. [00:02:18] Accept whatever is going on, take a deep breath because, hey, whatever is happening has already happened. When I was deployed, I used to tell people, if you're dead, don't call me because you're already dead. I can't bring you back to life. I don't want to have the emotional strain of having to deal with someone dying and the mission set of me going out there trying to risk my life or protect my teammates, and I have this huge emotional toll in my mind, right? [00:02:41] Just accept it, right? That whatever is going on, and then the second thing is focus on what is presently going on. What can you control at that moment? You getting laid off or your job coming to an end or someone dying? You can't control that whatever's happening is going to happen, but you can control how you act next. So your child, go play with them. Be in the moment with them. Right? Sounds super easy. I know it. But if you need a moment, step away. My wife is really good at this. Sometimes we are talking, and she'll say, hey, you know what? I need a moment. She'll step away, take her moment, and come back and finish the conversation, right? [00:03:14] I learned a lot from this woman. So teaching you as well right now, right? Just take that. Take that moment, and then come back and play with your child, right? Being that present moment with them, the best way you can get through hardship or anything, accept that whatever's happening and then control what you can control in that present moment. [00:03:33] All right? Peace. [00:03:37] Ooh.